alot of people think that after u have a baby your life should end, that's a lie if anything having a baby should make u want to live more if not for yourself then, for the life that god has just entrusted u with. Having a child does change things but it can be for the better or for the worst u decide how your life will change and how much.I love my son with my whole heart and could not be happier for him being given to me and i plan on raising him the best way i know how. For the people that really know me or have had a conversation with me in regards to children would know where i stand with that subject, if u don't know me well i never really wanted kids and i taught if it did happen it would when i was about thirty something, had a wonderful man, a house, a car and a money making career, my life was on a roll before the baby i was almost at my goal before the baby, my life did change after the baby but it changed for the better in my case i was blessed to still have all the things and everybody stand by me after my son was born some people don't ever get that chance. for all u haters I still got my man most of all and yes he's my baby's daddy and my husband and we're in it to win it, and my job is still there for whenever i need it and i still plan on becoming a lawyer it's on hold cause my son needs me now to take care of him but as soon as he can stand on his own i will go back to getting the rest of my education so i can say i came out on top in all of this but everybody is not me and can never be me, but u are your own self and u can do just as well so belive in yourself and god he will help u to make the right choices even after a baby with or without a man or friends or anything else for that matter so keep the faith and it will work out just fine in the end. Peace